Hyper-Dating

How strange it is, the continuum upon which my dating level resides. It reminds me of the Tilt-A-Wheel ride at the carnival. It's either way up in the air, which its resultant stomach lift, or it's about to scrape the ground, sparks flying. Hot or cold, no in between.

Thanks to my meditation practice, I've cultivated the ability to step back from my life and become the observer. Instead of being caught up in the "living-ness" of life, I can watch it as if from the outside when I meditate. Generating an objective view of yourself is quite helpful. It lets you see your habitual patterns and decide if you'd like to keep them or not.

My habitual dating patterns have been changing lately. My guess is that's what's causing the wild "up" portion of this Tilt-A-Wheel ride I'm on. I thought I knew what I wanted (a serious, committed relationship), and now I know that I don't have a clue. I'm shifting in what I want. My view of who and what I'm looking for in a partner just got way bigger. Instead of, "He had to fit into this mold," I'm now able to meet people with the thought, "Let me see who this person is, what they're about, what are their hopes and dreams," like that. That's a huge shift by itself.

I say "Yes," more than I say, "No," these days. Not to everyone and everything, but I'm a lot more open to meeting new types of people than I had been, even in the recent past. There's been some weirdness (don't get me started on the ONE-MINUTE DATE!!), but for the most part, I've met some great guys.

Where can you change your habitual patterns in your life and get a different result? What can you begin saying "Yes," to, and open yourself up to new possibilities?

Peace,

Debbie